About 6 years ago, I had just broken up with my then-fiancée and moved out of the home we bought together. I remember feeling completely alone, confounded and isolated. I wasn’t in a happy space. We had been together for 5 years. He was my boyfriend, my best friend, my person, but it just wasn’t right. And when you know it’s not right, you simply can’t remain in a situation that doesn’t serve you. It was at this point I discovered Louise Hay, who is a great proponent of self-love. I remember reading a page in her book where she talks about having a relationship with yourself where you love and approve of yourself, and I remember thinking that it was completely foreign and weird. I had never been taught to foster a relationship with myself, but rather to always focus on others. And that right there is basically like putting your happiness in someone else’s hands which is obviously a disaster waiting to happen.
I began to cultivate a relationship with myself that very day, and have been mostly on and sometimes off since that day (I’m only human – sometimes new boyfriends get in the way of this, but I always come back to myself). This part of my life, this developing a relationship with myself, is a very dear subject to me, and I want to bring it to you, in the hope that something resonates with you.
One of my favourite TED talks is by Tracey McMillan where she says that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. I love that quote so much, because it’s the absolute truth and one of the keys to a happy life.
I love self-development, and am versed in NLP, the work of Louise Hay and the Enneagram (which is an unbelievably profound life-altering tool). I hope to inspire you in some ways to be kinder to yourself, maybe a little more patient or compassionate and to make time for self-care.